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Be Your Best Self Today
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About me:
As a full time engineer, part time firefighter, husband, and father of three, I’ve lived the chaos of juggling countless responsibilities while trying to stay true to what matters most. I’ve felt the weight of being overwhelmed, the sting of inadequacy, and the frustration of spinning my wheels without progress. Through faith, self-reflection, and a drive to create change, I developed a framework rooted in the Incident Command System—one that’s saved lives in emergencies and now helps people reclaim their own lives. Today, I’m passionate about helping others navigate life’s challenges with clarity, structure, and confidence, empowering them to show up as their best selves every single day.
My Mission:
It’s about the journey, not the destination
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Being your Best Self Today
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Your best self isn’t some distant version of you, buried beneath years of unchecked stress and unmet goals—it’s who you can choose to be today. It starts with simple, intentional steps toward better mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health. The Personal Command System isn’t about perfection; it’s about giving you the tools to meet life’s twists with grace and confidence, empowering you to focus on what matters most and let go of what doesn’t. With the right mindset and structure, you can thrive today, not someday.
What I help solve:
A fresh take on overwhelm
Let’s be real—life can feel like trying to juggle flaming bowling pins while riding a unicycle. I know because I’ve been there, and dropping one of those pins (or all of them) is just part of the deal. But here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be. What I teach isn’t about turning your life into some rigid, color-coded calendar system—it’s about giving you the tools to lead with clarity and a sense of humor. With a little firefighter-inspired know-how, I’ll show you how to tame the chaos, focus on what actually matters, and leave the unnecessary fires to burn out on their own. This is for the dads, the go-getters, and anyone who’s tired of feeling like life is running them instead of the other way around. Let’s rewrite the rulebook together.
Hey there!
I'M JAY.
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I’ve always believed that every problem has a solution if we stay curious, think creatively and keep asking "why" until we uncover the root cause.Â
I am an engineer, firefighter, fitness advocate, triathlon enthusiast, and devoted family man who thrives on helping others navigate life's challenges with balance, structure and purpose.Â
Drawing from my unique blend of engineering expertise, first-responder experience, problem solving addiction and a heart to serve, I aim to empower dads to conquer overwhelm and reclaim control of their lives.Â
"Simple, structured, relevant and easy to follow to quickly make a dramatic impact on my life"
#BST MODE.
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